Erin on the Side of Truth

to err is human, finding truth is trickier

What is marriage?

What is traditional marriage?

What is gay marriage or

samesex marriage?



What is LGBT?

And what if you don't

identify with L, G, B or T?


LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual & Transgender) is a term that is becoming better known and more respected. That's important for those who

identify as LGBT. However, it can be a restrictive label for those who experience unwanted same sex attractions. The insistence of "once gay,

always gay, so just say you're gay"can be harm-

ful, especially when mental health professionals say it. Not everyone experiences attractions the

same way. The research that indicates sexual orientation can change for some people has yet  

to be accepted by the American Psychological Association (APA). On the other hand, no research exists at all proving sexual orientation can't change.


Homosexuality is almost as controversial as  it is personal. I'm not interested in the controversy.

I'm interested in the truth, and I think some

other people are probably interested in it, too.



"Gay to Straight?" 


I began this blog because I felt the need to talk about observations I've made during the 20 years since I wrote Born That Way?  I've been working on a revised edition entitled Born That Way? 20 Years Later and a sequel, of sorts, called Reborn That Way. Unfortunately, I have yet to finish either book. Raising three kids tends to take a great deal of my time.


I've had difficulty telling my story through the media, too. Journalists have written articles and one filmed me for a news report. Unfortunately, the stories were turned down by various higher-ups who insisted the reports implied sexual orientation can change. I suppose my life does imply that, although it wasn't the message I tried to convey. Claims of a "change in sexual orientation" or "going from gay to straight" can be misleading and are often misused by extemists on both sides of the issue.


The most recent refusal to publish an article quoting me came after Dr. Robert Spitzer's apology in April of this year. He'd performed a study back in 2001 that was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.*


I participated in that study and commented on Dr. Spitzer's apology. I noted that he didn't say he'd made up the results or that they were tainted by his bias (he was instrumental in having homosexuality removed from the DSM list of mental disorders in 1973, after all). Instead, Dr. Spitzer apologized for utilizing self report as his research method. He'd decided, after 11 years had gone by, that the 200 participants could have been lying.

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